Are you afraid of decorating?
There are different types of fear.
Some are rational. They keep us alert to the possibility of danger and help us navigate what can be (at times) a scary world.
Those are the fears we pay attention too and adjust our lives accordingly.
No walking into dark alleys, big empty buildings or unfamiliar neighborhoods alone. Pretty straight-forward stuff.
But where we (I) often get tripped up is with the irrational fears that rise like monsters from the most innocent of situations.
Like the one that visits my head when I think about inviting friends over to see my latest project around the house.
I call it the “not enough” fear. Its message is consistent. It never wavers from telling me that no matter how hard I’ve worked, no matter how beautiful the creation (new paint color, curtains, area rug…etc.) that I’m just not good enough and that my home (yep, I still get this after all these years in the profession) isn’t worth sharing with my friends or family.
When this monster rears its head, it seems so real; so solid and concrete. But the truth is that these are only ideas in my head.
There is no concrete monster…just a vapor of thought.
And I’ve learned a trick in dealing with these faux-monsters. When you turn and face them directly; really stare them in the face…that’s when they waft away on the wind. That’s when they are shown to be the frauds they are.
When I do the thing that scares me most, that’s when the monster vanishes.
Let’s live and decorate fearlessly.